Hello aunts and uncles.I feel like an ungrateful spoiled girl for this question since there are so many about women whose men do not want to spend time with them, I have the opposite issue. I actually started to live with my boyfriend of a year , I am not interested in long term commitment or marriage so that is irrelevant to me. He on the other hand wants commitment, marriage, kiddies, and the like. He is the outgoing type, not many friends, but plenty of acquaintances, he is extremely type A worked on wall street and sales. He is never shy (except with me) and he is extremely competitive. I am type A too on everything, except on the ease to talk to strangers. I get very shy when meeting new people, I usually do not approach first. My boyfriend is on this campaign to break me out of my shell (though I'm socially fine). Since we are new in town, my bf met some people who are into cars (the kind of cars he is into) and will be going to a car meet with them. (basically, he will meet them and they all share a pizza) Now, my boyfriend WANTS me to go with him, because he says he wants to spend time with me(he works 50 hrs a week) but I know I will stick out like a sore thumb since I am not into cars at all. I want him to GO! but I want him to go ALONE. Because for one I dont know about cars (I did learn about his fave cars, and motors, and brands for him) and I do not want to meet new people. I do, but just not in this forced way! He says I either go, or he wont go at all. We are new in town so I DO want him to go, I want him to have boys time, and talk about cars and stuff. I just know I will feel out of place, and he will only be going for 1 hour, I really have no problem with him being apart for an hour, but he DOES. He wont budge at all, I've tried to sweetly, and kindly tell him that is just not my scene... that I will be okay at home. He says that he worked so long this week that he wants to spend his time off with me...and I understand that, but I dont want him to leave his hobbies for me! I really enjoy having an independent life from his and I NEED my me time, but I really do not want to go to that car meet, should I just try to suck it up for him even if I will be uncomfortable? Would that be the "right" thing to do? Or should I tell him to respect my position and go by himself? Am I an awful girlfriend for this/? I cannot get through to him... please help me. I understand where he is coming from, but am I being irrational??? We are both off school for the summer, so we will have other chances to spend time together...
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